Last week a friend stopped by and mentioned he left his church. I learned he wasn’t alone.
It seems a large chunk of the congregation has fled, along with half the staff. I asked my friend for his take on what’s happening. His story resembles many others I’ve heard over the years.
“The pastor is very self-confident,” my friend explained. “He likes to remind everyone that he is the visionary. So when members or staff have a concern he just brushes them off. For him, it’s ‘my way or the highway.'”
If that’s an accurate description, is this a picture of visionary leadership–or something else?
Ministries need vision and leaders with vision. But sometimes church leaders use self-proclaimed “vision” as an excuse to bulldoze over those with whom they disagree.
So, what’s the difference between a leader exercising true vision, and one who seems to be on a solo power trip?
Vision vs. Visions of Grandeur
1. True vision comes from God. With that, it’s safe to assume God is more interested in plans that further his kingdom, rather than somebody’s fiefdom.
2. Vision is not defined as just another way of “getting my way.”
3. For a leader, confidence can be a benefit. Over-confidence, however, is arrogance–and dangerous, the stuff of tyrants.
4. Visionary leaders stay closely connected to their people. Unlike insulated Lone Rangers, they engage in abundant and frequent two-way communication with members and staff.
5. True leaders invite and welcome critique. They’re eager to adjust their vision when they learn valid and corrective insights from others. Believe it or not, God works through more than just one.
A high-profile pastor recently wrote an article about people who leave a church. He listed reasons why he thinks people leave, and suggested several ways to respond. Conspicuously absent, however, was any leadership responsibility for the people’s exodus.
That’s not healthy. That’s not visionary leadership. That’s just a prescription for blinders.
This is a great one to chew on, Thom… I think vision and humility only come together in Jesus—those who are most closely attached to Him are also those who most obviously share in His spirit…
One of the biggest personal challenges I experience in leadership is knowing how to express a vision but not dictate the method. I have found it is disrespectful and demoralizing for my staff if I micromanage in so much detail as to keep my staff from being able to use their talents and gifts that God has given me by extension through them.
If I let others have wiggle room, many times I have found a new or better way of meeting the needs of those I am trying to serve. They get the credit for a job well done and I get the credit for keeping the machine running smooth and meeting its purposes. Win – Win
Another great thinking post!
I was just talking to a group of my peers about living a life of humility AND confidence. Honestly, we left with more questions about it than answers. I think you’ve offered some great insight on the issue. Thanks!
Key word in Thom’s post: “arrogance.” A “leader” (or anyone else) infected with arrogance suffers from the double-bind of 1) not noticing it, and 2) dismissing (at best) anyone who dares to bring it to the attention of the arrogant “leader.” In the worst case scenario, those around the arrogant “leader” begin to adapt to the arrogance in all sorts of dysfunctional ways.
When I was a kid, I thought “The Emperor’s New Clothes” was the most ridiculous story ever told. After several decades of seeing the folly of arrogance in all sorts of arenas, I now regard Andersen’s classic story as venerable truth.
Thom,
Great post Thom,
This is not an easy thing. This vision and personal agenda balance. A senior pastor can be very influential especially if he has gone to great lengths to get in with the people. This is a good thing. But i think that he sometimes needs to understand how great his influence is and how easy it is to get the whole crew on his “side” by using his influence with everyone believing it is “God’s will”.
Just a thought,
Rob
You’re absolutely right, Thom. This is a huge issue in churches today, and we need to address it head-on. In fact, I think you should take it even further. Let’s stop pretending that our visions come from God. I disagree with your point #1. To say that “true vision comes from God” is at best always arguable and at worst one of the most dangerous things on the planet. The problem is that a person’s vision can’t be proven to be from God. Sure, we can point to indications of how likely it is or isn’t, but there’s real danger in a person–any person, whether a leader or not–saying they have a vision from God. I’d even challenge anyone to point to a directive in Scripture that says we can receive “true visions” from God outside of the Bible itself. Anyway, I do agree with your point, Thom. Keep up the great work!
My experience is pretty close to what you describe here…it was unthinkable to question leadership, or leadership’s decisions, no matter how off course the decisions seemed. Every decision was deemed God-inspired; even though many of the decisions were completely impractical.
My former church was founded by a man who split off from another denomination to start his own non-denominational church—because he couldn’t see eye to eye with leadership. Through the years I was there, it was apparent that he was accountable only to God (who, I hear, is a great accountability partner), but not to any other people, peers, staff, and so on. It’s one thing to be led by the Spirit, but it’s another thing to think that everything you do is divinely inspired.
Plans succeed with good counsel, so the Proverb goes. 🙂
I think it’s important to remember that even in the midst of discussions we have to respect the authority God has put in place. When we decide we cannot live with the decisions being made, we must choose to step away from that team in a God honoring way. The way we choose to leave, is as important as the way we choose to lead and can speak volumns to others in how to handle these situations.